Dear Steve and Shirley,
My girlfriend is a liar, and I keep catching her telling lies about the smallest stuff. When we met, she lied to me about where she lived—like I wasn’t going to ever see where she really lives. She explained that she was embarrassed because she still lives with her parents.
I got past that lie and made sure she’s comfortable at my house. But the lies continue, and I had to pump the brakes—even though I told everybody she was going to be my wife.
She had weave for the first eight months, and I had no idea it wasn’t her hair. I’m a barber, so I’m not sure why she tried to hide it from me. I know not to touch a woman’s head, so I didn’t know.
She also had a breast lift and was bragging about them like she was just blessed to still have perky boobs at her age. She had to tell me after I discovered a scar.
I overlook a lot. After eight months of dating, she told me that she has terrible credit and has filed for bankruptcy. I’m cool with all of that, but I’ve been open and honest with her.
She knows that I have financial issues from time to time as a business owner, and she always says she has my back and that she’s got a lot of money saved—even though I don’t need her money. I don’t understand why she lied like she’s got it.
Her sister came over for dinner Sunday and said my girl is a “fake it till you make it” queen.
I need to fully understand who I’m dating. So I sat her down to talk to her. She said there are no more secrets.
Then today she called and said that we need to talk.
We are not going to make it if she keeps on lying to me. This is really bothering me.
How do I work things out with this beautiful liar?