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Would You Date A Man With "Potential?"


In today's society, it's not uncommon to see women thriving in the workforce. So much so, they're often the breadwinners at home. The dynamic of a "traditional" relationship where the man brings home the bacon has changed, especially with millennials. Nowadays, it can sort of be a challenge for some women to feel comfortable with dating a man who makes less money than she does. Does it mean he's not worthy or not a great guy?

Take a look at this Strawberry Letter where one financially successful young lady is on the fence about dating a man who lives "check to check": 

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I want your honest opinions. I'm young and I have a great job, my own place and I'm happily single for now. Here's my issue, I don't think a strong independent woman should stand by a broke man or wait for him to reach his full potential. People always say I should not overlook a man that falls short financially, but I prefer to remain strong because I am not afraid of being alone. So many women go through the emotional struggles of being with a man just to say they have a man. So is it selfish for me to live my own life and continue to pray for the man that God will send to me? I understand that men are natural hunters, so once they see what they want they will keep pressing for it. How do I know that a man's intentions are genuine and he's not looking for that come up? What if he's a really great guy, but he's living check to check? I have been in these types of relationships before and they each ended up as a waste of time and energy. Don't get me wrong, I've been broke before so I'm not downing anyone now that I'm doing much better and I'm able to take care of myself. If it's bad that I don't settle for half a man just to say I have a man. Seems like more men are looking for someone to take care of them now. I'm not bashing all men, but what's really going on nowadays?

Is she buggin'? No one wants to be taken advantage of or placed in position where it could happen. On the other hand, it can be "hard out here for a pimp" (figuratively speaking) and it takes time to build capital.

Take a listen to see what Shirley and Steve have to say:

What do you think? Is "potential" enough?

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