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"How Do I Compete With His Mama?"

They say you can tell the character of a man by the way he treats his mother, but what if he treats his mother better than you?

In this Strawberry Letter a 50 year-old woman writes to Shirley and Steve to get their advice about her husband that puts her second to his mother.

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Dear Steve and Shirley, 

I've been with my husband for 30 years.  He's a great father and a great son to his mother, but he falls short on being a good husband. When I met him, I thought that if a man treats his mother like a queen, he will be a great husband. But after all of these years, I think that I may be living with a mama’s boy. Don't get me wrong, I love my mother-in-law and we get along really well, but my husband has always put her as number one over me. When my husband gets off work, he calls his mama before he calls me. He stops by her house 3 or 4 times a week to take her trash out. He puts gas in her car, pays part of her mortgage and after we go to early service at church, he goes back to church to save a parking space for her because she attends the second service. The list goes on and on. I thought I was supposed to be his queen. I've expressed my feelings to him numerous times and I end up looking and feeling like I’m just a nagging wife. He didn't want to plan to do anything special for our 25th wedding anniversary and he didn’t do anything special for my 50th birthday.  I'm only asking to be treated like his queen at least once a month. Is that too much to ask for? The last vacation the two of us had was back in 2002. Steve and Shirley, am I being selfish? How can I compete with his mama? Please help.

Yikes, the brother didn't want to do anything for their 25th wedding anniversary nor her 50th birthday? I know I'd have to revaluate things for bit before I tell my man "to the left, to the left." *cues Beyonce*

Take a listen to what Shirley and Steve have to say:

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