It's an unspoken and spoken rule that black women do not play when it comes to their hair. That means keep your hands out of it! Black women spend hours upon hours at the salon to make sure their hair is laying "just right," whether they bought it or it grew out of their own head.
In this Strawberry Letter, a woman writes in to get advice on how to tell her man to stop pulling her hair in the bedroom.
Take a look:
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm in a new relationship and about two months ago, we started our sexual adventures. He is an amazing man in and out of bed. I am 28-years-old and he's 10 years older than I am. I love our relationship, but I have one major issue. He likes to pull my hair. To be more specific, he likes to pull my weave while we're being intimate. A couple of nights ago, he pulled my hair so hard that my scalp was on fire the next day and I had whiplash for the past two days. My darn neck hurts. I will admit that when he's messed up my hair or loosened up one of my tracks, he had no problem paying for my next install. I'm not one of those girls that is into rough lovemaking and kinky stuff in the bedroom and I feel like hair pulling may be just the beginning. He is amazing in bed, so I don't want him to stop what he's doing. I just want him to be more gentle. How should I bring this up to him without offending him? I don't want him to think I can't handle myself in the bedroom, especially since I'm younger. I also don't want sex to be boring for him, but he's hurting me. Plain and simple, the hair pulling needs to stop immediately. How should I tell him? Please help.
Now that is a dang on shame her scalp is on fire and she's suffering from whiplash like that! Understandably some people like it rough, but dang not at the expense of their edges. *side eye*
Take a listen to what Shirley and Steve have to say.
Perhaps she needs to take note from Solange and tell him, "Don't Touch My Hair." Lol
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