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"I Can Date Whoever I Want, When I Want To "

You know the saying, "birds of a feather, flock together?" Well, in this Strawberry Letter a young man writes in because he's being kicked out the "boys club" because most of his friends are married or in serious relationships. He's noticing that his friends are pressuring him left and right to settle down with one woman and the fact of the matter is, he's not ready. Not to mention their wives and girlfriends don't want any of his single "female friends" to "flock" over to their men. 

Take a look:

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I need your point of view on my situation. I am a very successful black male in my late 30s. I have a career and I am working on my doctorate degree. I own my home and I live a great life. My only problem is that most of my friends that I hang out with are getting married, engaged or are in very serious relationships and I am the only one that is still happily single. My male friends are starting to put pressure on me and stress me out about finding one nice female and settling down. A couple of my boys have stopped inviting me to their outings because I am single and their wives don’t think they should hang around me. I will admit, I do like to entertain a lot of beautiful women and I often show up with a real nice looking lady, whenever I meet up with my friends. My female friends have tried to hook me up with women, but they always strike out and have me on blind dates with the most depressing, uninteresting and non-motivated women. I am very happy with my life and I date whoever I want to date, when I want to date. I’m not a womanizer and I don’t lead any of the women to believe I’m ready for a commitment. I want to stay focused on finishing school and advancing in my career right now. So how can I get my friends to see that I’m really okay being happily single? I like hanging out with them, but I can’t stand the pressure. What are your thoughts?

Would you be ok with your significant other hanging out with a friend who is out their sowing their wild oats?

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