Subject: My Husband Is A Thug And A Prominent Pastor
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I’ve been married for 7 years. I’m 43 and my husband is 38, but he acts like the world owes him something and always has a chip on his shoulder. He is argumentative and a wanna-be thug. He grew up in a rough area and he had to make it out of the hood on his own, but he won’t acknowledge that he’s in a much better place spiritually and financially now. He will preach a good sermon on Sunday, but Monday thru Saturday, he curses, drinks and he’s a womanizing thug. He curses like a sailor and he loves to brag about fighting and whose behind he could whoop if he had the chance. He’s cheated on me twice. The second time it happened, I checked out of the marriage. I would love to divorce him, but I can’t because he is my sole source of income. I got laid off in April of last year and I’m having a hard time finding a fulltime job. He stands in the pulpit on Sundays while I sit amongst the 2 or more women he’s slept with at the church. A few Sundays ago, a female church member approached me and said my husband made inappropriate remarks to her. I told her that she should tell her husband. A couple of days later, my husband came home and said he got into a verbal altercation with the lady’s husband and I acted surprised. My husband was flustered and embarrassed. I’m thinking all of the men in the church need to know what he’s up to. The 2 church members he slept with are married and I think their husbands should know what my husband has been doing. Should I start a war at the church or leave vengeance up to the Lord?