Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a woman that has been through a battlefield of dating, since my divorce in 2006. Just because of my age, I get approached by younger men trying to sleep with me. I’m trying to figure out if my online dating profile gives them that impression. Don't get me wrong, I love making love, but I’m not into bed hopping. I am definitely not your babysitter either! I want a real meaningful relationship but I don't care if I ever re-marry. My daughter says that I am too picky and need to lower my standards. I am going to give you my list of “must haves,” so please tell me if I’m asking for too much. I want: a non-smoker, light drinker, not a couch potato, must have some sort of income, have their own place to live, likes to dance, have some kind of spiritual connection, not needy, don't mind independent women, treats a woman with respect, not afraid of spending some money on me, clean, smells good, clean nails, hair combed, nice teeth and fresh breath, no foul language, be kind to others, like kids, have family values, have a clean car and he cannot kiss his pet on the mouth or let his pet sit on the furniture. So Steve and Shirley, is this too much to ask? I cannot find a date so should I change my list of “must haves” and lower my standards? Please help.