Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am 24 years old and I have a huge dilemma. My step-brother and I have been very close since high school, when he first asked me for "help" with a certain situation. He had girlfriends and various other partners at the time, but he asked me. I was shocked but honored, because he was the star athlete and very handsome. I ended up “helping him out” almost 3 times a week with his situation. It was something about being with someone that all the girls wanted, that allowed me to continue. Once his mom and my dad got divorced, he ended up moving 5 hours away. I used to visit him during the summer and we continued our situation when I would visit. A few years passed and we have always remained cool outside of sex because he was like a brother to me. Now he has a wife and 2 sons and he only lives 2 hours away from me. He always insists that I come for a visit. I don't want to be disrespectful because I know his wife and have met his sons. When we talk, he is practically begging me to come and visit him. He has even talked about moving me closer to him and said that he would help with my moving expenses. I don't want to be a home wrecker, so how do I tell him “no” without losing a brother? Please help.
P.S. I'm a male as well.