Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places!


Hello Shirley and Steve, 

I am a 20 year old black woman who comes from a very loving and caring family that carries themselves in a very classy and respectful way.  I’ve been taught since I was a little girl that men will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.  I am coming to you all because I need help.  I can’t find a man that wants to be in serious relationship with me and I know about 90 percent of the blame can be put on me.  I have no limits when it comes to sex.  I am very sexually active.  I have sex with men on first dates, hell even first encounters.  I am a very easy woman, 9 times out of 10 I don’t use protection and I have never had an STD but I know it is going to happen one day.  Nobody in my family even sees me this way.  They know I am not a virgin because of the pregnancy scares.  I don’t bring these men to my family to meet them, hell they don’t even stay that long.  Most of them are one night stands.  I have slept with about 40 men, I have had threesomes.  I even let their homeboys have relations with me if they ask and the bad part about it I can’t even tell you why I do it.  I am getting older and my parents are asking me when they are going to meet or at least see the men I am dating and I hate lying to them.  I am not ugly.  I am not an ugly young woman.  I am overweight but not huge.  I think I have good qualities and I am worth settling down with.  

I need help bad.  

Can you please give me advice?

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