Dear Steve and Shirley,
I need advice and I know you won’t lie to me. I'm 27 and I don’t have any children. I’m in management, I have two cars, my own place and I'm in school full time. Here’s my issue… I'm dating a guy that has nothing going on. We’ve been together for three years. He has four children, no car, and he used to live with me. I tried to help him get a better job but he wants to work dead end jobs. I told him he should offer to pay some of my household bills and he says I watch too much Love and Hip Hop and I want to live that kind of life. I don't see anything wrong with wanting nice things and going on nice vacations. I want a man that can say, “Baby I'll pay your car note this month,” or “I’ll pay the rent this month.” Dang, all I want is a man that I don't have to struggle with. I gave him chance after chance to get it together and he didn’t, so I finally put him out. Now he constantly tries to make me feel bad for wanting more. Don't get me wrong, I love this man, but I'm fed up. Should I just cut him off or continue to try and help him get his life on track? I'm almost 30 and I want a family, but not with him, if he can’t get it together. I don't want to keep wasting my time with him.
What should I do?
I need your advice.
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