Dear Steve and Shirley,
I have been dating a guy at work. After dating him for 10 months, I found out that he was married and he has three kids. I forgave him for lying because we were into each other and I wasn't about to let this minor problem mess up our relationship. He is in law enforcement and we often sneak off to be together. I will admit that the role play is a lot of fun when he’s in uniform. His wife is always busy with the kids, so we eventually had sex in their house, in their cars, in my car, at his friend’s house, at hotels and in my apartment. I even gave him a threesome with another woman for our 1 year anniversary. Everything was going great until recently.
He told me that his wife caught him cheating with another woman… not me!
So, we had to lay low for a while, until he gained his wife's trust back. I was mad about him cheating on me with the other woman, but I forgave him. He told me that his wife forgave him too, but I truly don't care about his wife. I'm okay with being the side chick. But recently I've been seeing less of him since his wife caught him cheating and it’s starting to suck. I just feel like his wife needs to let him cheat in peace. It’s not like she's going to do anything about it. She’s not going to leave him, so just let him cheat in peace! We've been together for almost 2 years now and I don't want to give him up.
What should I do?
Should I wait for him to be able to sneak around again, or should I leave him alone?