Is my friend a hater?


Dear Steve and Shirley, 

My dear friend has been married for over 20 years. I have been married and I’m divorced. She was a great supporter throughout my whole mess. When I started dating again, she made sure she knew who I was going out with and where I was going, just so I was safe on my dates. She was a really good friend. Now that I've been in an exclusive relationship for the past 5 years, she has started telling me that I can do better. Her main issues are that he has not mentioned marrying me, we don't live together, we don’t go out on dates and we are very private. 

Oh, and there is a 20 year age difference… I'm 40 he's 60.

I'm fine with not needing to be married and he fulfills my needs 100%. When I tell her I’m good and happy, she hits me with negative comments like: he needs to claim me, he needs to get me a better car, he needs to buy me a house, and the fact that his children don’t like me. Her negativity is getting on my nerves, but in the back of my mind, I wonder if she’s right. I know our relationship is good, but we have absolutely no drama. What could possibly be better than this? 

Is my friend trying to encourage me or is she hating?