Good morning all.
I'm a 35 year old mother single mother of three kids 16, 15, and 11.
I've been divorced for about five years and don't know much about the games men play. I listen to you all the time and over the last six months I have really learned a lot but I have a situation that I don't know how to handle. I've been seeing the man of my dreams on and off for the last four years. Is everything I have ever dreamed of in a man. But I have three problems. I need your help with, first, he is always saying he's not ready to settle down. He's always on the go but wants me there when he returned. He says he enjoys being with me and I am the type of woman he wants to be with. Is this game to keep me where he wants me. Second, I received an anonymous text message saying he has a child on the way, this makes three. I only know about and have seen one. I forward the text to him and he avoided me for about two weeks. When I finally spoke with him he confirmed that this was true. He said that one of his old girlfriends informed him that she had his child. I did not ask for details. The crazy part is he got mad at me. We argued about me knowing this information. This really threw me for a loop. He is mad because I know why. I really don't understand that.
Do men share information depending on what the person means to them?
Did he say this? Did he keep this because I don't really matter and had no right to ask him about this? Third, I want this man in my life as my man. But after the children situation I'm not sure if this is what I want to deal with first. I mean for the next 18 years, what will I have to deal with once the child is here? Baby mama drama? My kids are almost grown and I don't know if I want to start over. I want to keep him close to see how this situation will work out. So I asked him if he could just satisfy my sexual needs. Thank you, no strings attached. He did not like that but after a while of talking he agreed it was a mistake on my part. Should I just walk away. I know you have a way of making women feel bad about being stupid but I don't have much knowledge when it comes to men and their games. What would you tell me if I was your daughter.
Signed. Found the man of my dreams...