Subject: Your place or mine
Dear Steve and Shirley, Iām 57 and my boyfriend is 62. His grown children live with him and my father lives with me. We canāt catch a break when itās time to be intimate. Iāve tried to sneak out to the garage late at night and have my boyfriend meet me there, but if my dad hears the alarm chime, heās up and at āem, trying to see whatās going on. I snuck my man into my bedroom one night and the next morning, my dad bust through my door to tell me that he had cooked breakfast. I canāt put him out because my mom did. I donāt want to hurt his feelings because Iāve always been a daddyās girl. But at my age, itās time for him to cut me loose so I can have some fun. I was married forever and after my divorce, he became over-protective of me. This drives my boyfriend crazy because he wants to be Mr. Wonderful in my life. He and my dad have talked about my dad stepping back and my dad told him if he stepped up and asked me to marry him, then that would solve everything. My dad knows that neither of us wants to be married again and weāre content in our relationship. My boyfriendās children are 30 and 28 years old and theyāve both moved back home because theyāre still trying to find employment and they blame Covid for not working. I canāt spend time over at his house because his daughter doesnāt keep a clean house and quite frankly, the kids donāt want me over there. So, here we are and thereās always the questionā¦ āYour place or mine,ā when we want to be together. He tells me to talk to my dad and I tell him to talk to his grown children. Please help us settle this because I love my dad and he loves his sorry, grown children. Why is he letting his children come between us like this?