Subject: Let’s make a deal
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a very beautiful and buxom female in my mid-forties and I’m divorced. My husband cheated on me with an acquaintance of mine that I let stay with us for 2 nights so her house could get painted. I was naïve and didn’t suspect anything even though I caught him coming out of the bathroom where she was taking a shower. He said he walked in by mistake. I found out right after that when she confessed. So now that I’ve been single for close to two years, I’m finding that married men and men with girlfriends want to play with me on the side. To be honest, I’m still damaged from my divorce, so it would be nice to have sex with no strings attached with a decent man that’s being honest about his situation. I shared my thoughts with 2 of my good friends. One is a man and he advised me to get something out of the situation if a married guy wants sex on the side. He suggested that I tell the guy I want a “deal.” The “deal” can be anything that I want or need to be happy with our arrangement, whether it’s money or a home-cooked meal, or a weekly massage. I love this concept, but when I presented it to the black men that were really trying to get into my bed, they laughed at the idea. They said an affair is just an affair. They don’t want to have to feed me or provide any financial aid at all. One of my closest male friends that I had sex with many years ago said that sex is so free and open now that men are getting in and out and moving on, without ever calling the woman again. I’m not ready for that, so I have just kept my goodies to myself. Am I wrong to expect the cheater to make a “deal” with the cheatee?