Subject: They let their husbands run wild
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 2 years and I’m 25 years old. My husband is 26 and he pursued me heavily until I let him take me out. We had a great first date and he told me that he loved me. I fell for him really quick and we got married in no time. He lived out in the suburbs and I had an apartment downtown so he stayed with me mostly before we got married. Right before the wedding, I moved in with him and I met 3 other married couples in his neighborhood. They were all professional men and they loved to golf, mainly because it was a status thing for them. I asked my fiancé (at the time), why he never mentioned these friends and he said they were his neighborhood friends and he didn’t really hang out with them because he was single. I got upset and asked him if he was rushing into marriage to fit in. He said absolutely not and I did not nag him about it. Fast forward to the present day and we’ve been married for 2 years. My husband thinks it’s okay to hang out with his neighborhood friends every Friday and Saturday night. It’s fine if they’re in the backyard or in one of their mancaves, but they like to go to the city to hang out. I’m the only wife in the group that has a problem with it. One of the wives told me that as soon as I start getting tired of my husband, I will look forward to him hanging out at night. My husband said that I am making us look bad as a unit because I’m always calling around complaining about him being out. I don’t like that they let their husbands do whatever they want to do and I hope it doesn’t rub off on my husband. He’s not a big drinker but now he’s buying liquor and building up his bar to show off to his friends. Is there any way to keep my husband at home?