Subject: My wet and wild older man
Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband is 76 years old and Iām 60. I worked with his daughter years ago and thatās how we met. When we started dating, he loved having a much younger woman on his arm, but as he gets older, heās getting more paranoid and asked if I would ever leave him for a man my age. I took my wedding vows seriously and he knows I love him, but heās on my last nerve. Heās not aging well and years of abusing alcohol have finally caught up with him, making all of his teeth to crumble when he eats crunchy foods. He wonāt get them fixed or get dentures because he hates going to the doctor. Heās been wanting hair implants for years but he knows we canāt afford that so he wears his hair twisted and he uses a lot of hair products every day. It looks like an old Jheri curl and it hangs long in the back and heās bald on the top. Iād love for him to shave his head and go visit a dentist. We used to have an active sex life, but he has been leaking a little urine after he uses the toilet and the smell is strong enough to choke a cat. I secretly put a mattress cover on his side of the bed because I didnāt want to embarrass him. Between his sticky hair products getting on me and the smell of urine, we havenāt had sex in a while and Iām tired of making up excuses. It literally makes me gag to think of having sex with him now. He still wants it, so somethingās got to change. The final straw for me, was when he urinated on himself in Target this past Sunday. I didnāt make a big deal out of it, but I had to buy him a pair of clean shorts. How can he walk around like nothingās wrong? Would I be lowdown for leaving him if he doesnāt change?