Subject: I’m just listening for my name
Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 4 years to a great man that is hardworking and spiritual. I used to brag to all of my friends that my man is faithful because we have a lot of sex, he’s overweight and he works all the time. I was so airheaded to think that. I never imagined that my less-than-handsome, big-belly man would step out on me. At the top of the year, he started working at night as the overnight security captain and I was missing cuddling with him at night, so I started staying in bed all morning so we can cuddle when he gets home. The other morning, he showered and snuggled up next to me in bed. I raised up my nightgown and then I backed it up on him, for a quickie. As soon as we finished, he was knocked out. My husband has always talked in his sleep and I am used to it. He usually mumbles my name and I think it’s so sweet so I always listen for my name. But that morning, he said another lady’s name. Then he mumbled, “put it on me” and “pretty yellow booty.” I’m brown-skinned so I know he was not talking about my booty. I shook him and he turned over smiling, then went back to sleep. The next morning, he was very aggressive during sex and it was not a quickie at all. Afterward, he passed out and I listened for my name while he talked in his sleep. He said a new woman’s name so I woke him up and asked him if he knew the woman he mentioned in his sleep. He said the names came from pornos that he watches while he’s at work. I told him women in pornos do not have names! I am trying to figure out who would want his fat butt besides me, so could he be a cheater? Is it normal to watch porn like that or should I pop up at the hospital to see what he’s up to?