Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 47 years old and the guy I’m dating is not who I thought he was. When we started dating, I told him that I didn’t want to get married because I had been living with a man for almost fifteen years and when we called it quits, it was easier to pick up and move on. He told me that he was tired of the dating scene and he wanted to settle down. He’s 50 and has never been married. He said he hadn’t dated anyone in over 4 years and he didn’t even let women come to his apartment anymore. When we decided to live together, I helped him clean out his apartment and I found feminine products, ladies' hair products, and old makeup. All of the products were expired so I thought they might belong to his ex-girlfriend. But when I found three pair of ladies shoes and a pair of fluffy house shoes under his bed that were current styles, I knew someone had left them there recently. I put the shoes in the living room and told him to call his side chick and tell her to come get all of her shoes. There were 3 pairs of Louboutin and one pair was the same as a pair that he bought me for Christmas. At first, he tried to act like he knew the shoes were under the bed and he said that it was nothing. These shoes have been gently worn and they are a tiny size 7 so he knew better than to say they were for me. He’s avoiding the subject now and saying I’m crazy for going through his things. His lease is up and he only has about 10 more days in that apartment. He can’t come stay with me until he stops lying about the shoes. Here’s my question… If it’s plain as day to me that a woman was in his place recently, am I stupid if I move forward with him? No matter what happens, should I trust him?