The Strawberry Letter: Take Your Time Young Man

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 42-year-old single woman and I was in a 10-year relationship with my man and my man broke up with me and then he married someone else six months later. I was devastated and I became a serial dater. Then, I met a younger man and decided to settle down. He's 30, but mature for his age. The only problem that I have is that he tries to take the lead in our relationship and I try not to flex on him, but I always have to show him whose boss. He is also inferior to me in the bedroom and it's hard for me to coach him without him getting offended. He needs to slow down and pay attention to what he's doing. When I told him that he needs to slow down he told me that I need to concentrate. That won't even matter because the whole ordeal doesn't last long. He got mad at me the other night because I left out of the bedroom after we had sex and I slept on the couch and finished the job myself. The next morning he Facetimed his dad and I heard his dad tell him to take your time young man. I was outraged that he would tell his dad about our sex life so now we're both offended and it's his fault because he doesn't know how to go nice and slow. How could he possibly get mad when I give him constructive criticism? I cannot waste time on another man that doesn't listen, what should I do?