Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a man online, and he's a decent guy with a good job and a great set of friends. We've gone on double dates with my friends and his friends, and I did that because that's how you get to really know a person. The drawback of it is that my friends also get to point out the bad things about my man.
We had a double date with my best friend and her man, and my bestie said that it's too soon for my man to be as hands-on as he is, meaning he can't talk without touching me. She said he was going to start pressuring me for sex too soon. She was spot on with that one, so I couldn't be mad at her.
The second date was with my cousin and her husband, and my cousin's husband said, 'Guys shouldn't be grabbing my butt in public like that because it's tasteless.' I did not care what he said because I know he's not a romantic type of guy from what my cousin said about him. But when I'm alone with my new man and in public, he really can't talk without putting his hands on my body.
In the car, he wants to hold my hand and drive with his left hand. He has his hand on my thigh when we're having dinner, and if we're at a bar having a drink, he will slide my chair right up beside him so he can rub my shoulder or have his hand in various places on my body. We met seven weeks ago, and we haven't been intimate, but like my bestie said, he's already itching to have sex.
The final straw for me was when he put his hand between my legs in a restaurant and asked if he could have it. I asked what it was. It's a complete and utter turnoff. Do I throw away the man for this one flaw, or is this something we can work on? He doesn't do well with subtleness.