Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm married, but my husband and I haven't slept in the same bed for two years. His sleep meds didn't work, and he would try to watch TV all night. I sleep lightly, so I told him that I needed the room to be quiet. He went and slept in the other room two years ago and never came back. After the first year, he moved all of his clothes into the room with him. He came to my bed a few times wanting sex, but he did not want to cuddle afterward, so I stopped being intimate with him.
Luckily for me, I travel every two months for my job, and I'm gone for two weeks at a time. My last work trip was in July, and I was having dinner with two other managers, a male and a female. We got on the subject of how hard marriage is, and the man said that he cannot even remember how good it felt to be cuddled. Something came over me, and I blurted out that I'm having the same problem. I told them I can't remember how good it felt to be intimate and to cuddle afterward. He jokingly said that we should try cuddling together later.
Then he teased me, asking if he had to get me drunk first. The female said it would be great and might help both of us out. She said there's no harm in it unless we have sex. I told her there's a lot of harm in it because we are both married.
Anywho, the man showed up at my hotel room door at 10 p.m. I was surprised, but I let him in. I was wearing a robe and a tank top with panties underneath it; he was wearing shorts and a wife beater. We cuddled all night with our clothes on, on top of the covers. He felt so good up against me, and it has me wanting more. Is it time for me to explore my options with other men, or should I try to work things out with my husband first? Please help.