Dear Steve and Shirley,
I've been married for 13 years, and we've had more good days than bad. I have two beautiful children, and that’s why I struggle so hard to keep my marriage going. Recently, I found out he's been hiding money, and he's got a girlfriend. I've overlooked a lot of foul stuff he does, and this is no different, but I didn’t want our children to find out the way they did.
Last Friday, I got a call from my 15-year-old son telling me that his dad had a woman in our formal living room. My husband told our son they were discussing a business deal and then sent him outside to shoot hoops with his best friend. My son texted me saying his dad wouldn’t let him back in the house until the woman left. I rushed home, but by the time I arrived, the woman was gone. My son was still outside playing basketball with his friend.
When I walked inside, my husband said the woman had a proposal for him to join her company and that it was none of my business until they worked out the details. We started arguing so loudly that my son went to get his best friend's mom, and they all came into the house. In front of everyone, my husband said he loves the other woman and told me I shouldn’t act surprised, as if I already knew. My son and his friend went back outside, leaving me to face the boy’s mom, who hates me and was practically smiling at the news.
I thanked her for coming and asked her to leave. She pretended to be concerned, while my husband made snide comments, reminding her that I hate her guts. Now, the news has spread, and I feel like everyone is laughing at me. I feel pressured to react. Why did he have to open his big mouth in front of her? Is this a wake-up call from a higher power?
Please advise.