Dear Steve and Shirley,
I've been engaged for three years to the love of my life. She is beautiful, intelligent, funny, nurturing, godly, and a great lover. There's just one problem that was caused by a bicycling accident last year, and she's taking her time fixing it. It's affecting our sex life, and I tense up whenever we're out in public and see someone we know. Because of this problem, I became a homebody because I don't want her to tag along. I prayed about how I feel, but I can't help myself. I change the subject whenever she talks about wedding planning, and she's starting to notice that something is not right.
So here's my issue or issues. We were in a cycling club and our group rode bikes early Saturday mornings along an older highway. My fiancée lost her balance and fell, hitting her face on her handlebars. The fall chipped one of her front teeth and knocked out the tooth next to it. She's been given a temporary tooth for the one that's missing, but it never stays in, so she does not wear it often.
The chipped tooth is the main issue.
When I say it affects our love life, just imagine what I'm talking about. She's a bit rough considering there's a jagged edge on her tooth, and I've jumped up out of the bed before because I get scratched up. She can never do that again. I really miss it.
I also miss kissing her because I can't bring myself to do it. I know she hates the dentist and I do too, but I wish she'd stop canceling her appointments to get her mouth together. She's been through a lot, so I should be more supportive. But I'm starting to be resentful. She is sabotaging our future by postponing our wedding.
Should I force her to go to the dentist? Or should I force myself to deal with her edgy mouth?