Dear Steve and Shirley,
I married a man from another country. He got divorced and moved to Texas for work. He’s a doctor, and he’s got two teenage boys who chose to move to Texas with him after the divorce.
They’re in high school and they’re friendly to me, but it’s very obvious that they’re spies for their mom. I caught one of the boys FaceTiming with his mom, but his camera was turned toward me so she could get a good look at me.
The boys and their mama are not the problem. My husband’s mother is the problem.
Right before we got married, she moved to Texas too. She was living in Virginia with her second husband, but she left him to come ruin my life. I told my husband that I was not going to marry him if he allowed his mother to live with us.
He tried to sneak it in during our home search by looking for homes with a nice bedroom on the first floor. No sir, that was not happening. So instead, she has a little studio apartment in a building about three miles from our home. The boys go pick her up all the time, and somehow, she always ends up at our house.
I am tired of her. She loves to mention my husband’s ex-wife to the boys and make sure I can hear her conversation. She even cut her eyes at me once or twice to engage me, but I ignored her.
My husband recently gave her a key to our house and the code to the alarm "in case of emergency." She told me that now she can come check on her grandsons whenever she wants to.
That night, I had the alarm code changed—and I’m thinking about rekeying all the locks.
My husband knows that his tiny Caribbean mama is a pest, but instead of talking to her, he just gives her more access to us.
Why is he so concerned about her feelings and not mine?
Please help.