Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm thirty-two years old and single because I will not tolerate a drunk living in my house. My ex and I got into a big argument because for the past two years, he's been drunk when we are intimate and whenever I want him to be on his best behavior. His Hennessy is like liquid confidence, and he has been sneaking it in on me.
I don't drink like that anymore. Back when we first met, though, I used to try to outdrink him. We'd do it and then pass out in each other's arms. After I had our baby, I never returned to that lifestyle.
During our argument last week, he told me that sex with me is boring when he's sober. He said he needs Hennessy to "holla." He said meeting my mom was not something he wanted to do, but Hennessy helped him. He talked so lovingly about drinking that it made me want to punch him.
I told him that my mom could tell he was drunk, and he said he didn't give AF, okay? I warned him that if he didn't stop drinking, I was going to move out. He turned and poured a drink right in my face.
So my only option was to leave, whether I wanted to or not. I've been staying with my best friend, and my man is begging me to come back home. He wants to talk to me, but I’ve told everyone close to me exactly what he did to me.
It's going to be hard to forgive him and believe in him. I don’t know if he can stop drinking altogether, but maybe he can slow up a bit. I don’t want our daughter to have a drunk daddy all in her face.
I try to look at the bright side. I mean, he's a happy drunk. He is never argumentative, and the sex is top tier when he's been on that Hennessy all night.
Can I put my family back together after he played in my face like that? Or should I leave this drunk for good?